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Emotionally Yours | Diary entry

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by Zakaria Mohammad

It was about that time. The time we celebrated Eid. The time we ran around and visited as many relatives and friends as we could. Ramadan had been and gone, felt like it only lasted a second. Ramadan filled our life with struggle to attain success from Allah (inshallah). But then it was Eid, saw smiles, gave gifts, loved every moment of it. 

My kids elegantly and frantically decorated the house so they can feel the happiness of Eid, not only by the materialistic items displayed but also with the presence of love in the family. There are no rules to the adornment, you can be throwing streamers, making decisions on what goes where with what, challenging our creativity, and most importantly having fun whilst doing it. It does not matter what it is, as long as you made it a happy place.

For us Eid is about family, we love visiting and during Eid I teach my kids (and I see a lot of families doing the same) to visit the elderly together with keeping good relations. These lessons are gold for youngsters as it teaches them respect and honour.

But today I don’t want to write about my family, I want to write about another family. A family without a family. A very lonely family. A family that is looking for some love, some adornments in life and most importantly some smiles that go a long way. And guess what, they need this on Eid.

A very close friend of mine, who is a revert from overseas, spent Eid with me and the family. He told me how he spent the last few Eids and my insides turned due to my consternation. Up to now he had not experienced Eid properly or what I call proper. With family, with love, with gifts, with smiles, visiting people, getting tired, getting in and out of the car but seeing everyone with a smile. Spending the time with me was the close to giving him what I have and seeing him tired at the end of the day was worth it’s weight in gold.

We don’t know how many reverts feel lonely during this time, feel like there is no one there for them, feel like that they have no family. There are heaps who feel this way. Till we learn to accept them into our family they will not learn how to accept the family life that born Muslims have adopted from their forefathers. Today, by the love of Allah (SWT) I am emotionally yours my revert brothers and sisters.

It makes me upset when some get left behind just because we could not accommodate, we could not take it a little easy on them, we could not give them the benefit of the doubt because a lot of us who have followed Islam since birth or since forever have forgotten how it was when we were struggling, when we first started, when our iman was low, and always remember what worked for you is not going to work for them, there is always a solution for every problem and there is always the right path for a convoluted situation. So if you meet a revert then be easy on them, be accepting to them and change their way slowly, one hadeeth and one ayah at a time. It doesn’t happen overnight but it does happen.

To my brothers and sisters in Islam, Eid Mubarak. And May Allah fill your life with happiness and joy with your family. Ameen.

To my revert brothers and sisters, remember you are never alone, Allah is always with you, inshallah. Eid Mubarak to you and May Allah give you good companions throughout your life so you may find Happiness and Joy. Also, if you feel lonely, remember what Allah says in the Qur’an:

“When my servant asks you about Me, then tell them that I am near. I respond to the call of one when he prays to Me; so they should respond to Me, and have faith in Me, so that they be on the right path.” – Suratul Baqarah Verse 186.

“Have you not considered that Allah knows what is in the heavens and what is on the earth? There is in no private conversation three but that He is the fourth of them, nor are there five but that He is the sixth of them – and no less than that and no more except that He is with them [in knowledge] wherever they are. Then He will inform them of what they did, on the Day of Resurrection. Indeed Allah is, of all things Knowing.” – Suratal Mujadila Verse 7.

My rendition is that He, being Allah, knows what your doing, knows what you are up to, knows your feelings, knows your loneliness, knows what is going on so fight it and succeed and inshallah you will be victorious. You, my brothers and sisters, are never alone for Allah is with you, inshallah.

I love you for the sake of Allah.

Eid Mubarak.

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